De-escalation Technique #6

Reassurance

Reducing fear and anxiety by explicitly stating positive outcomes. Telling subjects they won't be harmed, explaining that help is available, and creating psychological safety during high-stress encounters.

3 Best Practice Examples
3 Improvement Examples
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NYPD Patrol Guide Reference

Building Voluntary Compliance (PG 221-01)

"The goal is to gain the voluntary compliance of the subject, when appropriate and consistent with personal safety, to reduce or eliminate the necessity to use force."

Source: NYPD Patrol Guide, Force Guidelines

Fear Reduction: Subjects in crisis often fear for their lives. Explicitly stating "We're not going to hurt you" can dramatically reduce defensive behavior.

Voluntary Compliance: Reassurance creates the psychological conditions for voluntary compliance by removing the perception that compliance leads to harm.

Promise Keeping: Any reassurances given must be honored. Breaking a promise destroys trust and can escalate future encounters.

Best Practice Examples

These clips demonstrate officers providing reassurance that reduces fear and builds trust with subjects in crisis.

Best Practice

Directly Addressing Fear of Death

22 sec
Transcript

"Nope, we're not trying to kill you, Ishmael. Alright, you're good. My hand is up."

Directly addresses subject's primary fear
Uses subject's name (personalization)
Validates: "Alright, you're good"
Demonstrates non-threatening body language ("My hand is up")
kent_edwards__officer_brower.mp4 | 1:08 - 1:30
Best Practice

Repeated Reassurance with Promise

29 sec
Transcript

"Alright, I promise, Ishmael. We're not gonna kill you."

Uses "I promise" - personal commitment
Repeats reassurance patiently (not the first time said)
Maintains calm tone despite long encounter
Understands subject needs to hear it multiple times
kent_edwards__officer_librizzi.mp4 | 2:51 - 3:20
Best Practice

Addressing Multiple Fears

20 sec
Transcript

"No one's gonna blow you up. No one's gonna, you know, shoot you. We don't want to hurt you, alright?"

Addresses specific fear (robot = bomb?)
Lists multiple safety assurances
Ends with positive framing: "We don't want to hurt you"
Seeks acknowledgment with "alright?"
kent_edwards__officer_librizzi.mp4 | 3:10 - 3:30

Opportunities for Improvement

These clips show high-stress encounters where reassurance was missing. Note: These are armed confrontations where some urgency is necessary, but adding reassurance could have created opportunities for compliance.

Needs Improvement

Commands Without Safety Assurance

19 sec
Transcript

"Sir! Put down the gun right now! Put down the fucking gun! Are you kidding me? Are you kidding me? Put down the gun!"

No reassurance about what happens after compliance
"Are you kidding me?" expresses frustration, not reassurance
Subject may fear being shot regardless of compliance
Missing: "Put it down and you won't be hurt"
emil_williams__officer_wright.mp4 | 1:03 - 1:22
Needs Improvement

High Volume Without Comfort

20 sec
Transcript

"Get on the fucking ground right now! Get on the fucking ground! Yo! Get on the fucking ground right now! Get on the ground!"

Pure command-only approach with no reassurance
Aggressive tone may increase subject's fear
Subject doesn't know if compliance = safety
Missing: "Get on the ground and you'll be safe"
king_wong__officer_lamonica.mp4 | 1:46 - 2:06
Needs Improvement

Repetition Without Positive Framing

39 sec
Transcript

"Put the knife down! Put the knife down! Put the knife down! 3-1 and 3-0. Put the knife down! Put the knife down, sir! Sir, put the fucking knife down!"

Same negative command repeated without variation
No positive outcome offered for compliance
Subject may think: "If I drop it, they'll still hurt me"
Missing: "Drop the knife and we can talk. No one gets hurt."
king_wong__officer_acosta.mp4 | 1:06 - 1:45
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How These Situations Could Be Improved

Adding Reassurance to High-Stress Commands

Command Only...

"Put down the gun!"
"Get on the ground!"
"Drop the knife!"
"Don't move!"

Command + Reassurance...

"Put down the gun and you'll be okay. No one here wants to hurt you."
"Get on the ground so I can keep you safe. You're going to be alright."
"Drop the knife and we can talk. I promise you won't be harmed."
"Stay right there. You're safe. I just need to see your hands."
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Key Takeaways

💚 Address the Primary Fear

Subjects in crisis often fear death. Saying "I'm not going to hurt you" directly addresses their core concern and opens the door to compliance.

🔄 Repeat as Needed

Anxious subjects may not hear or believe reassurance the first time. Be patient and repeat it calmly. "I've told you five times" is better than never saying it.

🤝 Make Promises You Can Keep

"If you put that down, I promise you won't be hurt" is only effective if true. Never make reassurances you can't honor.

🎯 Paint a Positive Future

Don't just say what won't happen. Say what will: "Put the knife down and we'll get you the help you need."

🗣 Match Words and Body Language

"I'm not going to hurt you" is more believable when said with lowered weapons (if tactically possible), open hands, or a calm voice.

👥 Name Them

"Ishmael, we're not going to hurt you" is more personal and believable than "Sir, we're not going to hurt you."

Discussion Questions for Training Sessions

1

In the "best practice" clips, how many times did the officer say "we're not going to kill you"? Why repeat it?

2

When is it tactically inappropriate to offer reassurance? Are there situations where it could be dangerous?

3

How do you reassure someone when you genuinely don't know what will happen next?

4

What's the difference between reassurance and negotiation? When does one become the other?

5

In the "needs improvement" clips, where could reassurance have been inserted without losing tactical advantage?

6

How do you maintain credibility if a previous encounter's reassurances weren't honored by other officers?